The last couple of months haven’t gone quite as planned. And it got worse in the last couple of weeks.
The surgery to exchange the expanders for permanent implants happened at the end of December. That went well, and everything seemed to be healing well. Until one month after surgery. That’s when the stitches on the radiated breast gave way. The doc stitched it back up. He wanted to take out the top whip stitch after a couple of weeks, but I was going on a cruise, so we waited till right after that to remove the whip stitch. And the very next day, late in the evening, they gave way again. I had to go to Urgent Care about 8pm. It took till 11pm to get the Urgent Care docs to talk to my surgeon, and agree on how to stitch it back up. And by the next day, it was infected. Tried antibiotics, but it got worse, not better. So we had to have the implant on that side removed, the interior of the breast swabbed with more antibiotics, inserted a drain, and stitched tightly. That got things to start healing, but leaves me with one relatively good breast, and what looks like a sher pai on the other side. I will not show you pictures.
I had the drain removed last Thursday. God that incision itches like crazy.
But, over shadowing all else, Friday morning, I learned that the adrenal cancer overcame my sister. She’d been fighting for 3 years, and her docs didn’t expect her to last even a year when she was first diagnosed. She fought. My god how she fought.
Last year, about a month before the Nerd Cruise, she asked if she could come. We made it happen. I introduced her to everyone I know. She had a blast. She told her husband that she hoped she would live long enough to go again.
She did. She was on her god knows what number chemo treatment. It was an oral chemo treatment, so she packed up her duffle bag of drugs and her nebuliser and joined us again. She made friends so easily. She introduced me to some people I didn’t know. And she had a blast again.
The cruise ended on Feb 28th. On March 9th, she lost the fight. On March 24th, we attended her memorial.
I’ll be back. But not right now. Give me a while. I miss her so much.